As a Certified Gottman Couples and EMDR Certified Therapist. I use the Gottman method to support couples through treatment. Given many of the clients I serve have experienced traumatic events that have impacted their relationships, I also integrate the use of the attachment-based EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) into the process when it is clinically indicated.
Most couples I have worked with have many questions they hope to answer as we begin the process. Feeling anxious as to what to expect is normal.
Let’s start with what makes the Gottman Couples Therapy Method different?
The Gottman Method is based on over 40 years of research to determine what helps couples stay together. The process starts with an assessment of the relationship.
Before I meet with couples for their initial session, I offer a Free 15 Minute Screening call online. During this call, we will get to know each other. I will answer any questions you may have. I will also screen for pre-conditions and readiness to engage in the process. Lastly and essentially, during this meeting, we will also discuss which counseling approach may benefit you, traditional or intensive.
If we agree to start the process every week, we will meet for session 1 for an hour and thirty minutes to conduct the joint interview. This session aims to learn about the relationship history of both of you between the joint and individual sessions. You receive an invite to your email to access the online relationship Check-Up questionnaires.
In sessions 2 & 3, I will meet with each of you to conduct the Individual interviews. I will explore your perspectives and personal histories during these individual sessions. These sessions are 50 minutes each.
Session 4 is the feedback session; during this time, we will discuss the strengths and areas of need and how to address them. We also set treatment goals during this session. This session is typically 50 minutes long.
To the question of how long is the process, how many sessions will we need? I explain to the couples the frequency of sessions starts with intensive work with an hour and thirty minutes sessions at least once a week. As you progress and move into the maintenance phase, we will discuss meeting every other week, then every four weeks, and sporadic check-ins afterward.
How long will it take? The method can take approximately 14 sessions; this depends on the issues, needs, challenges, and, most importantly, your level of motivation and investment in the process. This dynamic process requires you to work on solidifying, actively cultivate it outside of these sessions, and make time to nurture it.